Confidence is a state of emotional being.
What do I mean by that? It’s important for you to appreciate, understand, and embrace the fact that we must do the inner work in order for the outer work to be easier. In other words, do the inner work to make your outer work.
You can start by working to increase your confidence.
5 Ways to Increase Your Confidence!
1. Learn to love yourself.
Develop a sense of security, a sense of stability – an inner strength to tap into. Self-esteem. Self-worth. Trust yourself so that you can trust your decisions. It’s also important to trust ourselves so others can trust us too.
It’s funny, so many salespeople lack self-worth, self-esteem, self-trust, and self-belief. They get so frustrated when they pitch and their prospect doesn’t move forward with them. How can anyone trust you if you don’t trust yourself?
Confidence doesn’t come from the mantras. If it doesn’t get ingrained into your neurology, it won’t ever be implemented because it’s never believed. So many people say the right things because they know they’re supposed to, however, internally the itty-bitty-shitty committee is calling bullshit! It doesn’t believe it. It doesn’t attach it to self. It’s lacking the belief in self.
Make sure your self-talk is in alignment with what you want. Mantra-based communication with self is not a way to successfully increase one’s confidence.
2. Get out of your comfort zone.
Confidence in general is about constantly pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone. So many people stay within their comfort zone or their gray zone because it is what they know. And, because it is what they know, they don’t challenge themselves. They don’t allow themselves to step into who they could be, who they should be – their state of excellence. They stay comfortable, no matter how uncomfortable that comfortable is.
Push yourself and extend the boundaries of how you push yourself. Allow yourself to step into action, even if it scares you. Push your boundaries out a little bit, then let yourself stretch past them.
Guess what happens if you succeed?
You have a win! Our unconscious mind learns on repetition. So the more wins we give it, the more it allows us to embrace even bigger wins.
The reality is, no matter how much we stretch ourselves outside of our comfort zone, we’re not going to succeed in everything we do.
3. Take action.
When you stretch yourself outside those boundaries of your comfort zone, even when you don’t achieve what it was you were striving to achieve, you get blessed with many great lessons. Allow yourself to really embrace the learnings that are attached to what didn’t work. Even though it didn’t work, you tried it. And, now you learned a way that didn’t work for you.
If you stay in your comfort zone, you’re just doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Schedule in time to do something that you’ve never done before. Who knows, maybe you’ll achieve something you’ve never achieved before.
That’s what success is all about.
Taking action is a beautiful thing. Get out of your comfort zone. Allow yourself to push yourself.
Allow yourself to take action.
4. Walk your talk.
So many people talk about what it is they are going to do. And then they never do it. They allow themselves to suffer from analysis paralysis. They stop themselves from taking action. They overthink.
I invite you to do less thinking and more doing. Allow yourself to figure it out as you’re doing it. Don’t get me wrong. That doesn’t mean show up and throw up. You want to have a plan. You want to have a strategy. But, you also want to make sure that you’re implementing that plan and that strategy while avoiding getting stuck in your head. There’s only so much planning you should or could do.
It’s about walking your talk. Every time you talk about what it is you’re going to do, later and tomorrow come up. You’ve heard me say before, tomorrow never comes because every day you wake up, it’s today. So because every day you wake up is today, you’re going to constantly be talking about what it is you’re going to do.
Allow yourself to walk your talk. Get out of analysis paralysis. Get into action. Less thinking, more doing.
5. Compare yourself to you, and only you.
The person that you were yesterday, the person that you want to be tomorrow, the person that you were last year, and the person that you want to be next year. That is the only person you should be comparing yourself to.
As long as you allow yourself to constantly compare yourself to who you were and who you want to be, you will allow yourself to hold yourself in a space of improvement and a state of excellence.
The bottom line is this, avoid comparing yourself to others. You don’t know their life. You don’t know who they are. You don’t know what it is they’ve done to get to where they are.
Allow yourself to view yourself from the benchmark of you.